Whether you’re a parent of adult children or you’re an adult with a parent, there is much to be gathered from Walking on Eggshells by Jane Isay. This book is page after page of “aha” moments written for new empty-nesters, parents watching their children raise children, and adult children who want to better understand what their moms and dads are going through in this stage of parenting.
To be honest, I thought I wouldn’t get much from this book. After all, I’m a long way from being an empty-nester. My son isn’t even in preschool yet. But what I found was a fascinating look into my parents’ heads. (Are you nervous yet, Mom and Dad?) My gosh, they still worry about me! They have to bite their tongues from offering my sister and me unsolicited advice and it drives them nuts. They’re overwhelmed with watching me be a mom now, and with seeing my sister and me all grown up and living our own lives. Who knew?
My favorite thing about Walking on Eggshells is its anecdotal approach. There is no in-your-face advice giving here. In fact, Isay takes her own advice to parents by presenting the facts and allowing the readers to come to their own conclusions. I’ve always wondered why more self-help books don’t just give examples from real life and leave it at that. You know the fun part of most self-help books; at the beginning of each chapter they tell you about Bob or Valerie and how they had such-and-such a problem and then they fixed it. That’s what this book is all the way through! True accounts that you relate to. No matter how your parent/adult child relationship is, you’ll find something that makes you feel Isay’s been reading your mail. Very entertaining and easy to read, a joy to learn from.
How to Enter: I’m not letting go of my copy, but you’re in luck because I have an extra right here. So leave a comment and tell me what surprises you most about being an adult child or a parent to adult children. It can be positive or negative, we won’t tell on you. I’ll choose the winner on Sunday, March 2, 2008 at 12noon. Oh, and if you post a link to this contest in your blog, let me know and I’ll give you an extra entry!
(Psst! You can skip the contest and buy Walking on Eggshells here. You’ll be supporting dkMommy Spot and your local bookseller.)