Book Giveaway – Walking on Eggshells

walking-on-eggshells-pb.jpgWhether you’re a parent of adult children or you’re an adult with a parent, there is much to be gathered from Walking on Eggshells by Jane Isay. This book is page after page of “aha” moments written for new empty-nesters, parents watching their children raise children, and adult children who want to better understand what their moms and dads are going through in this stage of parenting.

To be honest, I thought I wouldn’t get much from this book. After all, I’m a long way from being an empty-nester. My son isn’t even in preschool yet. But what I found was a fascinating look into my parents’ heads. (Are you nervous yet, Mom and Dad?) My gosh, they still worry about me! They have to bite their tongues from offering my sister and me unsolicited advice and it drives them nuts. They’re overwhelmed with watching me be a mom now, and with seeing my sister and me all grown up and living our own lives. Who knew?

My favorite thing about Walking on Eggshells is its anecdotal approach. There is no in-your-face advice giving here. In fact, Isay takes her own advice to parents by presenting the facts and allowing the readers to come to their own conclusions. I’ve always wondered why more self-help books don’t just give examples from real life and leave it at that. You know the fun part of most self-help books; at the beginning of each chapter they tell you about Bob or Valerie and how they had such-and-such a problem and then they fixed it. That’s what this book is all the way through! True accounts that you relate to. No matter how your parent/adult child relationship is, you’ll find something that makes you feel Isay’s been reading your mail. Very entertaining and easy to read, a joy to learn from.

How to Enter: I’m not letting go of my copy, but you’re in luck because I have an extra right here. So leave a comment and tell me what surprises you most about being an adult child or a parent to adult children. It can be positive or negative, we won’t tell on you. I’ll choose the winner on Sunday, March 2, 2008 at 12noon. Oh, and if you post a link to this contest in your blog, let me know and I’ll give you an extra entry!

(Psst! You can skip the contest and buy Walking on Eggshells here. You’ll be supporting dkMommy Spot and your local bookseller.)

100 thoughts on “Book Giveaway – Walking on Eggshells

  1. I love that I see my parents in a whole new light now that I have kids myself. I realized that my parents have a lot that they can still teach me.

  2. As an adult child, it still surprises me that I can tell my parents what to do and they do it!

  3. The understanding that I will always be the adult and, in some regard, still the child to my parents is a challenge.

  4. I absolutely get my parents and their thought process now. As I find I am doing and saying the things my parents said to me to my adult child

  5. I think the biggest realization for me as an adult child has to be that my mom was right when she said my kids would rebel one day, due to my own rebellion. My youngest is 4 years old, and even though I rebelled at a much older age with my mom, my mom got it (I hope she didn’t pray for it?: ( LOL). What goes around comes around. It’s a lesson to remember because I know it has happened to so many parents.

    I’d love to read this book. If not here, I’ll have to look for it at the library!

  6. What surprises me the most is that until we are adults and parents ourselves that it helps us to realize that our parent are individuals and people with needs, wants and goals. They have feelings just like their children do. Maturity helps us to realize this.

  7. After being a single mom for my son since he was born, it is very hard to “let go” – I miss my best friend!

  8. It suprises me when my adult children come back home to stay for a while. They all say that they are adults and need to be on their own but they keep coming back. I think I better make their bedrooms an office or something.

  9. I’m an empty-nester parent watching my children raise children. I’m amazed with all the new techniques, especially baby signing. And, baby signing actually works!

  10. I have not seen my daughter (28) or grandkids in almost 5 years but will get to fly home to see them in 11 days. What has surprised me the most, recently, is how excited my daughter is to see me again.

  11. As the old song says: “Be kind to your parents though they don’t deserve it! Remember that parenthood is a difficult phase of life! Someday you will wake up and find your a parent too!

  12. something that surprises me about be an adult child is that i even though i don’t have to i still do what my mom tells me to do, even if i know she’s not going to find out about it, it’s that set in fear of getting in trouble, haha! weird.

  13. This book sounds like a good one to read.I remember when I said I will never act like my mother and now with my daughter I find myself acting just like her sometimes.She was overly protective and now I have become her.Strange thing!Please enter me to win this book

  14. What surprises me is how smart they really are and that although we thought that they were not listening to a word we said growing up…than indeed, they heard AND saw-everything..that teaching by example works

  15. what surprises me about being a parent of an adult child is how much more things i have to teach my daughter now than i did when she was a kid.

  16. even though i am in my thirties my mother is still treating me like i am 16. she does not like any choices i have made in my life. she does not understand why i chose to go back to school in my thirties. if she had her way i would still be living at home under her watchful eye.

  17. What surprises me is that, as an adult child, I thought the mom/daughter relationship would be easier by now, but instead it is so difficult. As a mom myself now, the love I have for my children makes it hard for me to understand some of the decisions my own mom has made over the years.

  18. I am most surprised by how difficult it is to talk to adult children. Parents may fear if they say the wrong thing their children may think they are entering the stage of life where their mental abilities are declining. There is a real fear that prevents many families from having open lines of communication.

  19. What surprises me to this day is how often my parents didn’t say anything to me, even when, looking back, they probably should have (but then again, who really takes the advice given by parents?). How hard it must have been for them to allow me to make my own hurtful mistakes? I dread those days for my own child.

  20. I am surprised by how I can have conversations with my parents about things that I never thought I would talk to my parents about.

  21. My son and his wife could really use a book like this with his mother-in-law. She seems to have major control issues that is really chipping away at whatever possible relationship they might be able to build. Perhaps if she heard it from another source it would drive home the truth that your children do grow up. They need to live their own lives and make their own decisions. I find that simply by making myself available if they have questions or just want to talk is much simpler than trying run their lives. Its a lesson we all have to learn sooner of later.

  22. i know there were many times when my parents thought they had to walk on egg shells around me especially in my teens; and i know they found it difficult to watch me make the same mistakes they did but they understood growth and i am forever greatful to them for never giving up on me; i know there is something in this book for my parents and myself and i would look forward to reading this

  23. When my folks still lived in the house where I grew up, I always felt like “their child” when my husband and I visited. After they moved into a new house, I felt like I was treated more like an adult. After some consideration, I realized that it was because I was never a child in this new house!

  24. What surprises me most is what good friends my mom and I are now that all of the turmoil and angst of growing up is over with. I can relate to her as a person now, without every conversation fraught with unspoken power struggles. My mom is cool, which I never thought I would say.

  25. What suprises me most is now that I am older I understand my mom better and now that I am a mother myself I know went she went through and I respect my mom alot more.

  26. As a parent, I have learned the most about my life from my two sons. They are 22 and 28. Through listening and talking to them we have a bond that cannot be broken. Our love and respect for each other is out of this world. I feel you can be friends with your kids, but you must be a parent first, and foremost.

  27. Anyone with children always know sthere is one you have to be so careful what you say.

  28. Oh…too perfect! I just had a glimpse of the next six months leading up to my parents’ 50th when we are going to Mexico as a big family. It is an event rife with gravitas and expectation. I’m so afraid we will disappoint them because…a) my daughter is a teen and prone to disappoint; b) my husband and I tend to be spontaneous or undependable…depending on how you look at it; c) I bristle when I’m expected to do something…I want options!

    I’m off to link my site to your contests!

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